While reading the spiritual section of my newspaper today, I came across this incredible concept of happiness/unhappiness genes. This was an article by Mr. Rajiv Vij. It made so much sense, forced me to revisit my approach in dealing with happiness.
Presenting my adaptation of happiness/unhappiness genes, which actually is a sequel of my earlier post; The simple choice of happiness!
According to this article, some people are born with the happiness gene. They do get affected by sad or unhappy incidents but that doesn’t mean they get stuck there. You must have met or know a person like that. It also makes you wonder, how does Mr. X remain so cheerful at all times? The reason is out now…Mr. X is one of the lucky few, who are born with the happiness gene.
But, what about the rest of us?
Mr. Vij has put our influences for happiness under five main categories, coined under the acronym of ‘ MOODS’. Understanding these will definitely facilitate the concept of choosing happiness.
1. ME : ‘ ME’ is our self centered instincts to take things personally.
How many of us could actually say with full guarantee that we take criticism very positively? Leave alone criticism, even a casual remark brings millions of doubts in our mind. We question ourselves at every step of our life. It is also very difficult for us to take compliments genuinely. We are always doubtful. We are scared of our successes and failures.
In our strides we understate the successful or happy moments ( Trust me, we get ample of it) but as soon as there are tough situations we exaggerate it, making our life look like a journey full of thorns. This leads to the next section of O.
Mr. Vij says that we are not unique in any situation, whatever happens to us is universal. I would also like to add that we need to accept the world of duality. Pleasant lies side by side with unpleasant moments.
2. OVERWHELMED: The tendency to get totally consumed by unpleasant events.
It’s interesting to observe how we separate our positives in life from the rest of the events while as soon as it is negative, it wraps our whole daily life. We become sad and insist to be counted as born unlucky. Even if something pleasant happens we stop ourselves from feeling the happiness.
I would say always remember that positive thoughts decreases in half, while negative thoughts increases in double fold. Try to isolate life events, don’t let them overlap. It is a conscious choice which requires everyday effort.
3. OBSESSIVE: This is our strong need to be perfect.
As in one of my posts, what if…if only? I talked about having an imaginary perfect world. We keep on comparing our present life with this imaginary world. Whatever we have got , we are not happy, as it is not perfect.
It’s simple, if you want to be happy and contented, stop looking for it. When you look for something, you always have set parameters, let go of your criteria.
4. DIY: ‘Do It Yourself’ yourself. No one should know that we are dealing with a problem. This thought again emerges from thinking that we are unique in our experience. We take it as a personal defect if someone comes to know about our struggle. We like to indulge in our problem, maximizing it by not sharing it with anyone.
The best way to empower yourself is by accepting our problem and seeking help. This needs a lot of strength and courage.
5. Set in Stone: The innate belief that the effect of any negative event will last forever. It feels that the journey of our life will be stuck with the unpleasantness.
Our life is divided into phases. Change is the only constant, it is always the darkest before the dawn.
Nothing is permanent in this wicked world – not even our troubles.
- Thoughts (betweenfearandlove.com)
- Tips for finding happiness in daily life (livinggoodandgreat.wordpress.com)
- The secret to happiness. i found it, have you? (lif3asiseeit.wordpress.com)