From the desk of a psychologist!

 

For every Scoundrel, there is a hero;

For every selfish politician, there is a dedicated leader;

For every enemy there is a friend.

Of late, I was quite bothered by my life’s experiences. Either I was being taken advantage of or a close one was getting duped. It was varying from a small level to being critically harmful to my sanity. As I have shared earlier I am a heart person and all of these incidents were really pulling me down and giving all ‘brains & logic people’ ( who care for me) reasons to point of  my naïvety.

Thanks to Mr. Abraham Lincoln’s letter to his son, which I came across today, I am still a believer. Let’s be honest to ourselves and reflect on our life. Isn’t it true that because we have a few bad experiences with people, we start doubting each and everyone. When was the last time you felt like a fool in doubting someone who actually helped you and proved you wrong?

It is like a tainted glass which is in front of us all the time. We see everyone through it. We also remember these bad experiences too vividly which leads us to actually put the good ones in the back of our mind or forget them altogether. Media also has a major role in this. Any negative incident has to be sensationalized and given full coverage and the positive ones are generally boring. It is repeated so many times  in front of us that we take it as a fact of life that this is a BAD BAD WORLD!

One more reason for us to be apprehensive is ‘ NO ONE LIKES TO BE TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF’. Whenever we are cheated, it leaves with a feeling of us being outsmarted. We feel like a fool, so it is better to be careful than sorry. I wouldn’t trust than be hurt again.

But my question is, is it healthy to live in a world which you can’t trust ?

I would say NO!

Imagine a world where you have no one you could trust and you are always on the lookout for the stabbers. How would you feel? It would lead you to actually lose your sanity. There will be unhealthy doubts, apprehensions, reluctance, suspicion & skepticism. It would become a really dark place, where you would forget how to LIVE.      It starts showing on your health too  as depression, blood pressure, stress and above all paranoia. 

 

Let’s embrace the world of duality. It is a world of both good and bad. If you have been pushed by one person, another will come and hold your hand. Please don’t shut yourselves from the positive experiences and interactions because of the fear of the negative ones. Humanity is beautiful, go ahead and experience it with open arms and the world will be yours!

 

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Comments on: "Is it a Pretty Ugly World?" (5)

  1. yes! I want to live like this. I know there’ll be people that will hurt me (I have learned that most of the time by being selfish, not because they are evil ) but also, if I stay open, I have the chance of meeting people that will make me happy. And yes, sometimes happiness and hurt may come from the same person. Also, I have read somewhere that emphasizing bad times is just a protective mechanism, so I try to recall good times also.

  2. I have struggling a LOT with trust issues; and at times it borders on paranoia, as I have a really hard time believing that people don’t have an ulterior motive. I love the way that you acknowledge that this DOES happen, and that we need to accept it – but not let it completely overtake us. This is something I am definitely working on each day!

  3. you know our trust issues r relative……relative to the last situation we were in……if we have been done good with…..we start trusting everyone around……but if cheated upon or taken advantage of……we start suspecting everyone….not a great feeling…..it’s like walking in a space full of landmines….but wise people come out of it……..and HOW!!!

  4. Iram Shamim Malik said:

    yeah for bad experiences why to ignore good ones even though a few. nice topic.

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